A family is made of love, and a child feels it when they see a hero just like them cherished by their grandparents.
If your child is being raised by their grandparents, they're growing up wrapped in love, and they may also notice their family looks different from some of their friends' families. They might get questions, or wonder why they live with Grandma and Grandpa. Helping them feel deeply proud and secure, and giving them warm, simple ways to talk about their family, roots them in the truth that a family is made of love, in whatever form it comes.
The quick answer: The best way to help a child raised by grandparents is to celebrate that families come in many wonderful forms and that theirs is full of love, and to give them a proud, simple way to talk about it. A story that centers their family with warmth and pride helps them feel secure.
Why a story works
Children rarely see a family like theirs celebrated in a story. Filling that gap matters. When a child sees a hero like them, cherished and secure in a home led by loving grandparents, they learn that their family is one of the many beautiful kinds, and that love, not who's in charge, is what makes a family.
Give the hero your child's name and face and the pride becomes theirs. Here is a full example.
An example story: "Dominic and His Grandparents' Love"
(Names and characters here are invented for this example, and every family's story is unique. In a real Storybook Studio book, the hero is your own child.)
1. Dominic notices his family is different
Dominic lived with his grandma and grandpa, who loved him with their whole hearts. At school, he noticed some kids lived with a mom or dad, and he got a few questions about why he lived with his grandparents. He started to wonder about it.
2. Dominic isn't sure what to say
When kids asked about his family, Dominic wasn't sure how to answer, and he wondered whether his family being different meant something. He wanted to feel proud, but he felt a little unsure.
3. Dominic meets a hero who looks just like him
One evening his grandparents read him a new book. On the cover was a boy with Dominic's smile, snuggled with his grandparents, and Dominic's own name across the top: Dominic. In the story, that Dominic was raised by his grandparents too, and his stuffed owl Winston shared a warm truth: families come in all kinds of shapes, and some kids are lucky enough to be raised by grandparents who love them dearly. What makes a family a family is love, and Dominic's home was overflowing with it. Winston gave him a proud, simple answer for questions: "I live with my grandma and grandpa, and my family is full of love." Story-Dominic answered with a smile and felt proud of his family.
4. Dominic feels proud and secure
As he heard the story, Dominic felt warm and proud. Real Dominic snuggled up with his grandparents and thought about all the love in his home. When a kid asked about his family, he smiled and said, "I live with my grandma and grandpa, and my family is full of love." The kid nodded, and that was that. Dominic felt secure and proud, knowing his family was one of the many beautiful kinds.
5. Dominic won't stop asking to read it
Dominic asked for the book again and again, because it celebrated his family and made him feel proud. He grew up secure in the truth that families come in many forms, and his, full of his grandparents' love, was exactly as wonderful as could be.
What made this story work:
It normalized all families, love is what makes a family.
It celebrated theirs, warm and proud.
It gave a confident answer, a simple, proud line.
The hero was him, secure and loved.
How to use a story like this at home
Celebrate your family openly and warmly.
Teach that families come in many forms, all made by love.
Give your child a proud, simple answer for questions.
Provide books and media that reflect all kinds of families.
Frequently asked questions
How do I help my grandchild feel secure being raised by grandparents?
Celebrate your family joyfully, teach that all families are made by love, give them a confident answer for questions, and provide representation. A story that centers their family with pride helps.
Kids ask my grandchild about our family. What should they say?
A proud, simple line works well, like "I live with my grandma and grandpa, and my family is full of love." Practicing it builds confidence.
Does a personalized story really help?
Yes. When a child sees their family celebrated, they feel proud and secure in real life.
What age is this for?
This can be treasured across many ages, and the story can reflect your family.
Keep reading: Grandparents at the heart of a family show up in many stories. See how this approach helps a child when a grandparent is moving in →
Want to create your own storybook?
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